I thought I’d imported LJ into this place shortly after the Russian takeover, but may not have done. Apparently it’s 10 years since I wrote anything It might be. Who knows?
I’m drunk. I’m often drunk these days. Never before 9pm you understand but still. It's hot too.
Looking at my profile it's likely there's one woman and her cat/dog/spider are still linked to reading this. But if you see this please let me know you have. It helps I guess. This isn't the sort of thing I'm going to stick on facebook.
I've not actually spoken to anybody (literally communicated with anybody, bar the odd facebook interaction but I deleted that app 6 months ago) that a) I don't work with, b) I'm not related to c) isn't a medical professional, for years. Last time I socialised with work colleagues was 2018. Last time I socialised with anybody I've known for longer than 3 years was 2015.
I'm scarily ok with that. The only thing I'm interested in is getting through each day so I can go to sleep. I don't like people, particularly don;t like talking to people. I put on an act, monday to friday 9am to 5pm, which gets me paid, but beyond that I have nothing and want nothing. I still have Nic and Ruairi (6) and Jude (4), but if I didn't I would have left the planet aaaaaaaaaaaaages ago. It's less that she/they're enough to keep me here, and more that my wage pays the mortgage and I can't stand the idea of fucking up their lives. I mean I take Ruairi to school 4 days a week and collect him on a monday, and take Jude to/from nursery when Nic isn't at work. That's some help I guess.
Covid hasn't helped but is certainly not the cause.
6 weeks before covid (Feb 2020) I chatted to my GP about needing help with anger management. I@m not depressed, I said, just angry. She suggested talking therapies again, and referred me for adult ASD assessment (but that's another story).
March 2021 I finally got the courage to speak to talking therapies. And because I work for the same trust (not that I volunteered that up front) they saw me the next week. Via Zoom, you understand. Still grateful. Better than nothing.
Come the middle of May, seems I'd mentioned (in a totally dispassionate and matter of fact way) wanting to die once too often, and she referred me elsewhere. "You need to talk to somebody with more letters after their name that I have" she said.
24 June I had an assessment with mental health CTT. And 10 days ago got a letter saying - among other things - that they're going to treat me for EUPD. Or BPD.
....and I'm strangely relieved that somebody has - for the first time ever it seems - agreed with me that there is something fundamental other than "symptoms of anxiety/depression/whatever". I've always known I'm a nightmare to live with, but on the other hand always been told my brain is - emotionally - normal, which has caused such conflict because I've always believed "it can't be me that's to blame for x, y or z, I'm normal, therefore our interactions are normal, therefore the cause of this argument cannot possibly be just inside my brain.
No, I'm not pleased. Not happy. Not "oh they'll love this on OFMB". But in a way I don't care what it is. He could have told me I had Tom Jones syndrome (don't laugh - it's not unusual) and I'd have been grateful. Because I've lived my whole life wondering "why am I like this?" And knowing why is helpful.
And yeah it simultaneously feels like I've been slammed head first into a brick wall.
Just going to admit here - because I never have, to anybody who isn't a therapist - that it would be such a relief to kill myself. I know exactly how, just don't know where (My desire is not to ever be found).
(Typing that is strangely cathartic. And if nobody reads this it's still been helpful to write)
And I'm so fucking frustrated that I can't.
And I won't, don't worry.
love to all :)
I’m drunk. I’m often drunk these days. Never before 9pm you understand but still. It's hot too.
Looking at my profile it's likely there's one woman and her cat/dog/spider are still linked to reading this. But if you see this please let me know you have. It helps I guess. This isn't the sort of thing I'm going to stick on facebook.
I've not actually spoken to anybody (literally communicated with anybody, bar the odd facebook interaction but I deleted that app 6 months ago) that a) I don't work with, b) I'm not related to c) isn't a medical professional, for years. Last time I socialised with work colleagues was 2018. Last time I socialised with anybody I've known for longer than 3 years was 2015.
I'm scarily ok with that. The only thing I'm interested in is getting through each day so I can go to sleep. I don't like people, particularly don;t like talking to people. I put on an act, monday to friday 9am to 5pm, which gets me paid, but beyond that I have nothing and want nothing. I still have Nic and Ruairi (6) and Jude (4), but if I didn't I would have left the planet aaaaaaaaaaaaages ago. It's less that she/they're enough to keep me here, and more that my wage pays the mortgage and I can't stand the idea of fucking up their lives. I mean I take Ruairi to school 4 days a week and collect him on a monday, and take Jude to/from nursery when Nic isn't at work. That's some help I guess.
Covid hasn't helped but is certainly not the cause.
6 weeks before covid (Feb 2020) I chatted to my GP about needing help with anger management. I@m not depressed, I said, just angry. She suggested talking therapies again, and referred me for adult ASD assessment (but that's another story).
March 2021 I finally got the courage to speak to talking therapies. And because I work for the same trust (not that I volunteered that up front) they saw me the next week. Via Zoom, you understand. Still grateful. Better than nothing.
Come the middle of May, seems I'd mentioned (in a totally dispassionate and matter of fact way) wanting to die once too often, and she referred me elsewhere. "You need to talk to somebody with more letters after their name that I have" she said.
24 June I had an assessment with mental health CTT. And 10 days ago got a letter saying - among other things - that they're going to treat me for EUPD. Or BPD.
....and I'm strangely relieved that somebody has - for the first time ever it seems - agreed with me that there is something fundamental other than "symptoms of anxiety/depression/whatever". I've always known I'm a nightmare to live with, but on the other hand always been told my brain is - emotionally - normal, which has caused such conflict because I've always believed "it can't be me that's to blame for x, y or z, I'm normal, therefore our interactions are normal, therefore the cause of this argument cannot possibly be just inside my brain.
No, I'm not pleased. Not happy. Not "oh they'll love this on OFMB". But in a way I don't care what it is. He could have told me I had Tom Jones syndrome (don't laugh - it's not unusual) and I'd have been grateful. Because I've lived my whole life wondering "why am I like this?" And knowing why is helpful.
And yeah it simultaneously feels like I've been slammed head first into a brick wall.
Just going to admit here - because I never have, to anybody who isn't a therapist - that it would be such a relief to kill myself. I know exactly how, just don't know where (My desire is not to ever be found).
(Typing that is strangely cathartic. And if nobody reads this it's still been helpful to write)
And I'm so fucking frustrated that I can't.
And I won't, don't worry.
love to all :)